Should he stay or should he go? A poker player's dilemma...

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Definitely continue to play. No certain way of knowing how long she will be in labour, it may last 10 minutes which would mean you missed it or it could be 10 hours, by which time you could have won the tourney and had a beer afterwards, celebrating your impending birth of your 1st born.
Lol- "Call me back when you see the head."

but that is a fair point.
 
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Easy choice, I would leave immediately to go to the hospital, there are far more important things in life than poker and the birth of your first child is definitely one of them!
 
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a big live tourney implies many entrants . a decent stack 6 from the bubble means you could leave and almost certainly get a min cash, at least .head to the hospital right away !
 
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I'm afraid to answer the wrong answer, like last time, but since you need two reasons, there are them.
1. leave to help with transportation, although the mother-in-law is already at a low start.
2. stay to help yourself and recoup transportation costs (if you're lucky, trying isn't torture).
 
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I wouldn't be playing Poker if my Wife was that close to delivery, Being by her side is far more important than a game of Poker, and if you miss the delivery you will never forgive yourself, or be forgiven.
Only sensible thing to do is leave and be there for your Wife.
 
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Suppose you are playing a big live tournament and have a decent stack 6 players away from the bubble when you receive a phone call from your mother-in-law saying that your wife's water broke unexpectedly and that she's about to take her to the hospital. You have no kids yet, you're about to become a father for the 1st time.

Leave the tourney, or keep playing??? Please give a couple of reasons, as convincing as possible.

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For the ladies: Would you support your significant other's decision to stay and play to win, or would you demand he get to the hospital immediately?


Thank to @najisami for this topic idea.
I would consult with my wife first. If she told me to come, I would come.
 
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Of course, most sane people would leave the table and go to their wives at the same minute. But there may be exceptions, people are different :)
 
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crazy question.....no sane man would be playing poker at all at a time like that. Get your arse out of there lickety-spit and get to the hospital where you belong!!!!
 
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crazy question.....no sane man would be playing poker at all at a time like that. Get your arse out of there lickety-spit and get to the hospital where you belong!!!!

Sounds like a man that has been told that answer :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO: or knows better than to answer anything else :LOL::LOL::LOL:
 
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Why were you playing in the tournament in the first place?
 
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I would stay and if I won the big tournament I would dedicate it to my wife for being a mother!!
 
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It helps to have a plan ahead of time. If it's a big tournament and there is life-changing money on the line for cashing and winning, then that's something worth fighting for. Boohoo, but you're not going to see your child's first moments. Ask someone to record some videos. You think 15 years from now the teenager is going to be impressed when you tell them that you threw away a decent shot at a comfortable life and their financial security just to go get stuck in traffic on your way to the hospital, and then missed their birth too?

It's time to be a man, take down the tournament, and bring the spoils home so that you can hire that night time nanny for the first few terrible months and not worry about how you are going to afford baby formula when supply shortages hit and prices skyrocket. You got yourself into this mess and you goddamn better have something to show for it.
 
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It helps to have a plan ahead of time. If it's a big tournament and there is life-changing money on the line for cashing and winning, then that's something worth fighting for. Boohoo, but you're not going to see your child's first moments. Ask someone to record some videos. You think 15 years from now the teenager is going to be impressed when you tell them that you threw away a decent shot at a comfortable life and their financial security just to go get stuck in traffic on your way to the hospital, and then missed their birth too?

It's time to be a man, take down the tournament, and bring the spoils home so that you can hire that night time nanny for the first few terrible months and not worry about how you are going to afford baby formula when supply shortages hit and prices skyrocket. You got yourself into this mess and you goddamn better have something to show for it.

Dude. Pretty sure you have to have sex before you have any babies. Just sayin'.
 
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I think any sane man would have immediately gone to his wife in such a situation. The man who decides to stay does not deserve to have a wife, let alone a child.
 
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I think any sane man would have immediately gone to his wife in such a situation. The man who decides to stay does not deserve to have a wife, let alone a child.

That sounds pretty insane, unless that man is a delivery room doctor, but then he wouldn't be playing poker in a big tournament while his wife is expecting to go into labour any hour of the day.

So if this man was trying to build wealth to make sure that he can feed his family, and this is his one chance to do so (he wins the tournament and takes home millions of dollars to his wife and newborn), then he doesn't deserve to have a family because he didn't throw that chance away?
 
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If I am poor, the child can see him the next day , I can not help anything at birth and if I can not assist ,a great gift for my wife and child would be to provide them with quiet days from now on. They would appreciate the gift and the fact that I thought about their insurance a good part of life.I know it's moral to be there and the financial situation would be good I'd leave the poker table right away ,but if there's nothing I can do to help give birth then I'd rather think of a beautiful future for the family...
 
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Depends on his purpose during the birth, meaning is he the birthing partner or is he a modern day man, who wants to be part of the whole experience of children, from birth to 18? If he is these things, then he will leave immediately.
If it's their first child, chances are the wife will be a fair few hours from birth, so I would say, so long as he keeps in touch with his wife's labour stages (assuming the table allows him to have his phone under consideration) then he would have to strategise his game to be over at least an hour before the birth, so that he doesn't miss it.
If that means going all in at a crucial point, then that's just too bad.
 
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-For the ladies:
Since I have never experienced pregnancy, I have to go with what I think I would do. I probably would let him play. Surely my mother or someone close is around to hang out with me. Men aren't very good at care giving anyway. I mean really, what's he going to do for me. Better he win the tourney and get us some much needed cash. And this is why I don't have kids...lol
 
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N time to hesitate.You can´t compare that tournament to a new member of your family.I don´t care about the money I could win at all.Both the mother and the baby are ,by far, the most important thing.
 
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If the man stays in the game, he may become a good player. If he doesn't, maybe he will become a good father. Of course, the situation has to be seen in context, but in most cases it would be right to go to your wife immediately.
 
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I would never played that on the first place , if I knew that my wife was about to give a birth in some weeks or a month . I would prefer to stay with her . If I had to play , I would choose a low buy , so that I could abandon it in such a case and not crying for the . Money lost . I wouldn't risk a high buy in tourney on such case . Also I think births operations can be scheduled if the to.e is very close , so you can schedule it , spend so e days with your beloved until your child is born , then go play anything you want
 
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Immediately go to the hospital to support your wife.
There will be more poker tournaments, but this is the only chance to see your first child being born.
Yeah... Peoples sometimes forgot, that the real life meaning is your family. And there is nothing more important in your life, than you kids!
3 months ago I turned to be a father. That was the best day in my life. To see how my soon is looking at me when I hold this little person in my hands , was so heart warming. Even that, my son born without bottom of right hand, what is called palm. It makes me love him and treat him even more!!! Love you son!
 
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There is no way you miss the birth of your child, first or sixth. Money doesn't buy happiness but holding your newly born child is amd nothing tops it. A poker tournament will come again tomorrow so you run as soon as you get the call.

One could question why you entered in the first place but you still have to live your life and babies don't come when you think they will so can't blame you for entering in the first place. Unless she was being induced...then you're in trouble lol
 
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