Poker between friends: What is and is not acceptable?

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The situation leads to the fact that a friend will wake up in the morning with a headache and no money in his pocket. You need to have a serious talk with him alone. If a friend refuses to leave the poker table, then you can come up with a clever way to help do this. For example, let his wife clear his head.
 
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Fortunately, I don't have any friends who get drunk during a poker game. However, in this situation I would force/ask my friend to come with me. If necessary, pull him off the table. As a friend, I also want to protect him from losing even more money. I think you have this responsibility as a good friend.
 
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First, I would talk to my friend about how late we will stay there and , of course, 0 drinks.Doing that we avoid ruining our live cash session.I can´t simply stand stubborn and drunk guys.It is much better to be sober during the game
 
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In poker, namely, you can't have friends at the table, everyone is for themselves!
 
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If I decide to stop playing and leave, it's my decision, and regardless of how my friend behaves, I will get up and leave. Maybe I will try to convince my friend to finish the game and leave with me, maybe not, it all depends on how the situation is on the ground. But usually, if I decide to get up and leave, there are few people who can stop me.
 
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I would stop playing my game and let him have his way, hoping that he would soon lose interest.

Alcohol will also play into my hands here.
 
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Tell him I will wait 30 mins for him and then if he won't finish just leave him, he is an adult
and you are not his minder.
 
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You take a good friend with you to a casino. The casino is about a - hour drive from home and you are your friend's only ride. You end up being seated at the same $2-$5 cash table.

About two hours into the game, you have almost doubled your stack! You friend isn't doing nearly as well. He is on his 3rd buy-in and drunk. To make matters worse, the competitiveness he has always had is kicking in and every time you (and it seems to be only you) have a hand and raise, he shoves. Considering the situation, you end up folding three or four times, and your game starts to be affected. This isn't fun anymore.

You decide it's time to leave, but your friend absolutely refuses. What would you do in this situation?

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Considering the fact that this is good friend of mine I would tell him that my head hurts and that I cannot play anymore. I would let him play as long as he wants to and wait him at the bar, outside of casino or sleep in a car. In days after I would see if he regrets his behavior in casino towards me and then I would evaluate if I still feel that he is a good friend. Those situations in every relationship (including this one, friend relationship) are inevitable but can define the future, either they strengthen the friendship or show you different picture.
 
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First of all, at the poker tables I see only 'enemies', so it really doesn't matter to me if a good friend IRL and/or someone else seems to 'target' me... honestly, in this kind of situations you're usually way ahead preflop(vs. a whale), so it's usually a good idea to just go with it and hopefully your hand will hold...

About the part that my game is affected and it isn't fun anymore- I agree with just stop playing and because I'm my friend's only ride, I'd definitely wait for him to finish his session as I'm sure he would do the same* but I'd also try to make him quit if I think he's just 'throwing' money away and/or the fact that he's a bit drunk affects his poker game a lot...
 
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simple. i tell him i am leaving... and i would give him a time frame that i am leaving by (wouldnt just up and leave the casino immediately). and id tell him that if he isnt ready to go by that time, oh well. he could uber home or whatever. id probably go enjoy the casino elsewhere for an hour or 2 (grab some food an drink or maybe gamble too) and then come back and see if they were ready then
 
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I think, the person, who has the car, has every right to determine, when its time to leave. So I would tell my friend, that I am going home now, and if he wants to stay, he need to find another mode of transport. The question is very hypothetical for me as someone living in Sweden, since we have public transport, and a casino would typically be located in or near a major city. Moreover having had this kind of experience I would never bring him to a casino again.
This for me is spot on advice and exactly what i would do in this scenario.
 
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depends on the situation and if they're an angry drunk or just being overly talkative and annoying, I'd probably just let them know I'm going to head out and if they want to come with me I'd give them a ride etc.
 
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I have been in such situations many times and I know exactly what to do. I would order my friend another drink, and then another, and another, and in the process I would gradually win all his money from him. I do this a lot, and my friends are even used to it.
 
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In my opinion there must be a way to solve this problem, because you dont wanna leave the place without him, so i would say i quit with poker at this moment and would ask him i give you round about half an hour and then i´m leaving this place, so you can choose the way back with me or you play on and do what ever you want!
It is not a situation i would like to have but the one who drives the car has to determinate when it is time to leave and drive back home.
 
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I don't think there's anything to do. If the person wants to stay and keep playing, it's their problem. It is up to the friends to warn and warn of the risk that it is occurring and nothing else. The person make the choice.
 
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If I had decided to leave, I would have done so. If my friend wants to stay, it's his right and his choice, and it would be wrong to insist that he listen to me. The worst thing that could happen is that my friend would just lose all his money. It's unpleasant, but it's not a problem worth worrying about :)
 
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You're at a casino with a friend and you're having a good time, but your friend is getting drunk and competitive, which makes the game unpleasant. You want to leave, but your friend refuses. You should try to talk to your friend, set a time limit for going out, and be firm in your decision. If the situation worsens, you may need to ask casino security for help.
 
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