Poker between friends: What is and is not acceptable?

Iryna Stryzheuskaya

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If I want to go home, I will invite my friend with me. But if he refuses, that's his problem.
 
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If I listen to a drunk, the one who is not fully aware of his decisions would be me. Obviously he decided to get me off the table and I would have no problem returning all the money I earned him when his drunken state passed. Although to be honest I don't think it's possible for me to stand at a table for a lot of money against a friend, I would feel very guilty.
 
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I would leave and let this guy do whatever he wanted, since he showed with his actions that he is not really my friend.
 
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Hi :)
If my friend had refused to take my advice, I would have just got up and left. Although I always care about my friends, when you are ignored, then obviously any help you give is useless.
 
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What would you do in this situation?
You have to know how to separate friendship from business, since he's drunk, he wouldn't listen to me, and I never liked giving advice, if advice was good, no one would give it for free.
 
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I would try to talk to him sensibly, and if he is not interested in my repeated arguments, then I would ask him for the last time if he is coming or staying....because I will leave him there.
 
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I only play on-line now but it isn't a good idea to play with friends or you might end up as ex-friends.
 
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Well I think I would have told him to WALK back home... and I know exactly how far Mazagan is from the nearest town :ROFLMAO:
With that kind of friend, you don't need ennemies ;)
 
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Well if it really is my friend, then I am not leaving them ever. I would probably leave the table though and go play slots. "Find me when you are done."
 
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Hopefully I'll never put myself in this situation in the first place and make sure I bring better friends to the casino lol. I've played a cash game with a friend at the casino once, and I won't do it again. Tbh, I hate playing friends at the casino. Because of the possibility of that exact situation, even without alcohol involved. What if one of us busts early and doesn't want to buy back in? That leaves the other person just waiting around. If they don't want to, or can't spend any more money then they had originally planned to.
 
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In the past, 7 or 8 friends of us always met at some house to play poker, some of us drank, some of us smoked weed, and everyone played the way they wanted, no one got angry with anyone, we were friends and we knew we were going to play poker, so In a casino it would be the same, there would be no problem of any kind.
 
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I don't think this is really about poker, it's about what kind of friend are you?,

I'd wait and take him home because I said I would, if I gotta get him to eat and sober up or wait til he passes out then that's how it is, am I being his only ride again???, nope lol

....as far as poker I don't have friends on the table, but I have a lot of friends who play poker and we play each other harder than anybody👍
 
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I wouldn't fold to a friend , either he was drunk or whatever. I would play normally . If we play for real money , we should play accordingly , not like scammers , by chip dumping or folding . No excuse he is drunk or sad or whatever . Also it's our reputation at the poker tables at stake .

. I think I am a minority with this opinion . Most players would play more friendly towards their friends , by folding big hands or by chip dumping. This happens all the time online . I am sure it happens live as well .
 
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I would just tell him its either we go or he remains at the casino, its up to himself to get back home
 
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I will tell the friend that we're going home now. If the friend refuses, then here is the deal: I will call any of their pushes, if the friend loses - the problem solves itself, we are heading home. If I lose, the ride back home will cost them whatever amount they won from me. So no more winnings for you either way, therefore let's call it a day now 😛
 
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I'd take all his chips if I could. It is better for me to take them than for someone else to take them.
There are no friends at the poker table, only opponents.
 
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If you really dont want to take his chips cash out .(I would be fine winning them ). Then go do something else for a half hour .After that tell him you are leaving soon and let him decide if he wants a ride home .If he still wants to play poker fine , its your car and your choice .
 
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Leave, you can't reason with a drunk, friend or not
 
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No phone at table.....no textos and no messenger .........and lot of alcool is acceptable lollllll
 
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I would ask them if they wanna take a break from the poker and grab some food and a beer.

Then i would try talking some sence into them when where away from the table.


If they still was being a bad friend and adamant on going agro tilt i would remind them to save anuff cash for the cab ride home and i would be on my way home.

Also to make sure he doesn't lose the shirt of his back if he had a wife,parents or siblings i could contact i would ring them and tell them to conatct him or go pick him up.

At least he couldn't say you didnt try and tried to do your part as a friend.
 
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Change to another table or leave and quit playing for that day. But I wait for him so we can go back together.
 
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I would leave the table and wait for him, because I couldn't convince him to leave and all I could do was wait for him, I don't think there's anything I can do in this situation.
 
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I wouldn't leave him alone in casino but I could stop playing depending on my willing and wait for him.
 
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This is pretty dang simple. When you give someone a ride, you and only you decide when it's time to leave. If they disagree, you ask them if they have another ride home to be polite. If they say no, you tell them they might want to go ahead and rack up because this ship is sailing. If they still refuse, you chuckle and be on your merry way.

EDIT: After reflection and reading some other replies, I may possibly tell them they have 15-30 minutes before their ride is gone. It kind of depends on the situation--do i have other plans? Is it getting late? Am I in a poor mood? I think giving them a small extension is beyond reasonable and shows compromise and loyalty in a friendship. This friend, however, doesn't sound like much of a good friend, but if this is an isolated episode, that lends more credence to the idea of a small time extenssion. If they are always acting this way, I'm probably not going to be in a compromising mood.
 
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You take a good friend with you to a casino. The casino is about a - hour drive from home and you are your friend's only ride. You end up being seated at the same $2-$5 cash table.

About two hours into the game, you have almost doubled your stack! You friend isn't doing nearly as well. He is on his 3rd buy-in and drunk. To make matters worse, the competitiveness he has always had is kicking in and every time you (and it seems to be only you) have a hand and raise, he shoves. Considering the situation, you end up folding three or four times, and your game starts to be affected. This isn't fun anymore.

You decide it's time to leave, but your friend absolutely refuses. What would you do in this situation?

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Thanks to @najisami for the topic suggestion!

Uccchhhh - really? Buddy is killing my action on the table? LOL

I would leave the table and cash out.

I would tell him to do the same as I am driving home. Time to go - we gotta go.

If Buddy is really resistant I might try to get the floor to pick him up off the table for being drunk.

If I am not able to leave promptly then it is the last time I drive Buddy to play poker.

Ideally we would have had an understanding about what time we would leave before we went to the room.
 
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