I think you shouldn't think about it as "making" them do anything. If poker is your hobby, then they should at least respect that, provided that it doesn't interfere unreasonably with your relationship time. Healthy relationships have a mixture of together and independent time, where both parties are happy and content. If you are struggling to find that balance, then it's definitely something to communicate about together and to set and negotiate expectations. That's all on the surface of the issue. It often goes deeper than that, such as when the poker player is spending more time on poker than on the relationship, is a losing player that is depositing money that they can't afford or neglecting spending on activities in the relationship, or maybe has some emotional issues as a result of getting tilted by playing poker and which affects the relationship. The key is to stay level, keep an open mind to the concerns on both sides, be healthy mentally, physically, and financially, and communicate.